Every once in a while a personal analysis is in order.  The bar is high but worth the climb…or so I’ve heard.

    We all make many mistakes, but those who control their tongues can also control themselves in every other way. [3] We can make a large horse turn around and go wherever we want by means of a small bit in its mouth. [4] And a tiny rudder makes a huge ship turn wherever the pilot wants it to go, even though the winds are strong. [5] So also, the tongue is a small thing, but what enormous damage it can do. A tiny spark can set a great forest on fire. [6] And the tongue is a flame of fire. It is full of wickedness that can ruin your whole life. It can turn the entire course of your life into a blazing flame of destruction, for it is set on fire by hell itself.